Many folks that are trying to drop weight think they have a problem with sugar or think that they are addicted to carbs. They are generally convinced that food is their only difficulty and they lack nourishment.
All of those beliefs are untrue.
If you wish to shed weight and gain health, without worrying about being on a diet is that food isn’t actually the problem. Food is a temporary way to solve the problem, although it’s a dangerous, damaging solution.
Why Diets Fail?
Diets fail because on some level they’re about deprivation, which always contributes to overeating or bingeing. That is because of not being able to eat what you need the anticipation will make you need it more.
If you’re considering not having pizza or pasta or ice-cream, then you’ve got pizza or pasta or ice cream in the mind daily. That puts the focus.
Finally, diets fail because they only deal with food and do not address what’s eating “at” you.
Diets do not tackle. There are reasons for that, including:
- Wanting to feel better quickly
- Eating from boredom
- To convey internal pain
When you determine what’s eating “at” you, rather than focusing on what you’re eating, you can drop weight and gain health, without restricting a single calorie or fat gram.
It will grow back if you chop off a weed as every gardener knows. To eliminate the bud you have to dig from the origin.
Overeating or bingeing is your equal of a weed, and when you move under the surface to the origin problem, and operate through those origins; you’ll change your relationship to food and drop fat without dieting.
Here are some common reasons why you might be using food to deal:
“I Only Want to Feel Better”
Recently, a woman who had been dieting her whole life inquired, “Why do I always turn to food when I’m upset? Why can’t I go to the gym”
She ate to relieve emotions and feel much better. She wasn’t going to discover that sense of comfort at the gym.
Why use food for comfort? Our first expertise of love and link is connected to the expertise of ingesting.
When babies are fed, they’re held in a parent’s arms, and they feel safe and loved and connected. On a primal level, ingestion becomes garnished with that early sense of connection and bond of love.
It registers within our psyches, although we could not consider food this manner. Food, on some level, equals love. After all, we use the very same words to describe relationships which we use regarding food. Think about these expressions:
- Hungry for love
- Starving for focus
- Searching for a satisfying relationship
Eating for comfort actually means having the experience of being comforted by someone else.
Folks might be inaccessible, unreliable and unpredictable, whereas food is available, reliable and more predictable. That is why it could be simpler to turn to food than to people.
Just take another step. Turn your internal critic into a cheerleader. 1 guideline is that if you wouldn’t say something to a buddy, don’t say it to your self.
What experiences have made you fearful to seek out or trust folks?
How do folks comfort, such as spouse, your kids, or even friends? Can you link to yourself the exact same manner, or are you harsher with yourself?
What will be most fulfilling for you at the moment?
“I Eat When I’m Bored”
Many of us eat from boredom — or so we think. We think we are bored when we are actually lonely.
There is a gap between boredom and isolation. Boredom is all about wanting to do something. The best way is to perform an action and be active and active. Find something you like to perform and do it.
On the other hand, isolation is all about wanting to be with someone else. If you’re lonely, you could fill up on food as a means of filling the emptiness inside.
The remedy to loneliness is to be with someone or a group of people and to truly feel fulfilled and connected in their existence.
By identifying the way food helps you deal if you eat when you’re bored, take another step.
Would eating, or thinking about food, give you something to “perform” and divert you from different thoughts and feelings?
When you’re lonely, ideas or what emotions are uncomfortable? Why?
“I Had So Much My Stomach Hurt”
Many folks discover they’re not able to stop eating once they’re in real pain. They eat plus they feel uncomfortable.
They think they are helpless over food and lack nourishment, but something else Is Happening
When pain is a lot to tolerate feelings could be converted into physical senses. Eating to the point of pain is a method of converting emotional discomfort .
Not only is this a method of articulating what you are feeling inside, it’s more easy to get rid of physical pain than it’s to process everything strikes you emotionally.
The expertise of yearning, wanting or desiring love, attention, friendship, understanding, money, security, and so forth, could be experienced as actual hunger.
Consider what it is you’re hungry for in your life (that is not food). You cease being hungry for longer, when you get what you need. You won’t search for it whenever you have satisfaction in life.
Just take another step by translating your “body language” into emotional needs, wants or struggles.
What emotional pain are you conscious of now?
What should you want or need more of your lifetime?
The trick to weight loss without dieting is to prevent counting calories and fat grams and start tuning into what’s eating “at” you. When you deal with the difficulty, you won’t use food to deal. That is the way you drop fat and make peace with food.
Dr. Nina Savelle-Rocklin is a psychoanalyst, writer, speaker and internationally-recognized expert in fat, food and body image issues. She has been featured at the Los Angeles Times, Prevention, Real Simple, Huffington Post and a number of different books, and has been a frequent guest expert on events, podcasts, radio, and summits. In addition to her medical practice, she writes an award-winning site, Makes Peace With Food, hosts a podcast, Wins The Diet War with Dr. Nina and movie show, The Dr. Nina Show. Her publication, Food For Thought, about the understanding and treatment of eating disorders, is the Amazon bestseller. To find out more: http://winthedietwar.com